7 Powerful Strategies for Making Decisions that Honor You!
Do you worry about taking care of others and what they want and need before making a decision? Do you feel like you're damned if you do or damned if you don't? Are you trying to please everyone because you don’t want to hurt their feelings? Maybe, you don't want to make the wrong choice. You feel taken advantage of because you always say yes when you want to say no.
This was an area I really struggled with because I care so deeply about others and I wanted to make everyone happy. The thing I learned is that I am not that person literally and I can’t make them feel happy; they have to decide to be happy themselves. I learned I could make decisions out of love and honor my feelings. It helped others around me to feel safe to do the same.
I had a situation happened recently with my husband. He asked me to do something I wasn’t really excited about doing. I knew it would mean alot to him for me to go with him to an event that was important to him. I checked in with what was important to me. I decided what was important for me was to help him feel supported and loved. This allowed me to fully be present and know it was a decision I made. I could fully show up without complaint and enjoy my time with him and the people around me. The key to making powerful decisions is that you get to make them and you don't need anyone’s permission to make whatever decision feels good to you.
The steps below came from the work I did to honor my feelings and needs. I used to look to others for my happiness. I have learned that when I cultivate my own happiness it is contagious with others. I also stopped worrying about others happiness because I don't control that person's decision making and they needed to honor own thier own feelings.
You can powerfully make decisions from a place of inner peace. It will require you to really listen and honor you! If you are looking at what others want or what others think before making a decision you are giving your power away. The more I practiced the steps below the easier it became to make decisions that honored me which helped me honor the people in my life.
This can be in little everyday decisions or big decisions.
Honor your feelings.
Trust yourself
Listen to your intuition
Get clear on what you want. If you don't know what you want how can you ask for what you want
Honor your boundaries or belief systems
Your opinion matters
Seek advice from those who have what you want.
My heart is to guide you through these steps so you can fully be in your power when you make decisions. Do you struggle with putting others' needs above your own? When you honor your needs you are helping others. Reach out and let me know how this has helped you.
